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#11969 - 04/03/04 02:56 PM
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Weapon
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Me: I was thinking about you while I was biking and I thought to myself ... why should I let myself get emotionally degraded by trying so hard and not getting anywhere ... I guess what I'm really trying to say is do I have a chance or not because it would help me out a bit here if I knew.
Her: well to tell you the truth, no.. I really like Josh and if Josh and I were to break up, I'd want to be single how long, and I just think of you as a friend
Me: that's ok, I understand
Her: I'm sorry
Soujiro: Sigh, you are a goddess what was I thinking trying to win someone over who is forever wise and beautiful, I'm nothing more than a mere peasant who has to deal with life's everyday disturbances and hardships.
*S.j. -: you're way too nice to me, I'm sorry
I'm pretty sure that's a never try again for now but do u think the part about her wanting to be single is simply saying no in the future? My friend tells me that I should play hard to get when she breaks up with her boyfriend ... do u have any ideas on how I can win her heart eventually?
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#11970 - 04/03/04 06:24 PM
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I heard the same story from a girl once. She ended up being single for a month and then started going out with a different guy!!! I think it's best to move on.
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#11971 - 04/03/04 07:46 PM
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yeha man its gonna be tough cause you seem to really like her.. but move on man it'll only be good for ya
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#11972 - 04/03/04 10:00 PM
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If you have to, cry in your bedroom/shower too...I know I had to do that...its tough, trust me, i know...you'll pass over her...sometime...and who knows how long it'll take..and maybe she'll come to you...just be a friend...
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#11973 - 04/04/04 08:31 PM
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How effective is the guilt trip? I'm going to go onto my friend's messenger account and show her my conversation with my friend. Here it is:
My friend: hey kid
Me: I got smoked hardcore read this ...
Me: Me: I was thinking about you while I was biking and I thought to myself ... why should I let myself get emotionally degraded by trying so hard and not getting anywhere ... I guess what I'm really trying to say is do I have a chance or not because it would help me out a bit here if I knew.
--Her: well to tell you the truth, no.. I really like Josh and if Josh and I were to break up, I'd want to be single how long, and I just think of you as a friend
--Me: that's ok, I understand
--Her: I'm sorry
--Me: Sigh, you are a goddess what was I thinking trying to win someone over who is forever wise and beautiful, I'm nothing more than a mere peasant who has to deal with life's everyday disturbances and hardships.
--Her: you're way too nice to me, I'm sorry
My Friend: Again Really Phylisophically deep
My Friend: But you got lit up
Me: yep
Me: that's a fuck you never try again, lol
My Friend: I understand
Me: I guess she was out of my league
My Friend: I would not go that far
Me: yeah and even now when I look at it again I can interpret it and it means never try again
My Friend: no idea
Me: every girl I've ever known has just considered me a good friend... wtf am I doing wrong
My Friend: no idea
Me: look at what I was going to say if she said yes …
Me: You are a goddess how is it possible that someone who is forever wise and beautiful managed to give a mere peasant like myself who has to deal with life’s everyday disturbances and hardships a chance. A day hasn’t passed where u haven’t been on my mind you’re like a flower which gathers all the bees and I’m like a petal that is just about to fall off. You make life so much more invigorating with a smile always on your face with a story to tell. Even while typing this I ask myself how this is possible I’m so normal and you’re so perfect.
My Friend: Do you want some help finding another one?
Me: yes but I don't know where to begin, it’s going to be hard finding someone like her again
My Friend: Well, just sit on it for the weekend and we will start on monday
Me: is it wrong to lay your heart on the table? I've always been told to tell a person how u feel and that has gotten me nowhere, oh well, I'll just cram it into my already fucked up brain, she'll be a good friend anyways
My Friend: ya
My Friend: I know what you mean
Me: I did everything in my power to win her over, from day 1 when u pointed me out to her I knew I had to redevelop my personality and body, I've succeeded in that yet I still haven't found truth
My Friend: wow, this is really deep
Me: well neways … man I fell asleep watching Hell Boy
Me: lol
My Friend: I will call you tomorrow ok
Me: I'll only be home tomorrow night so call me then
My Friend: ok
If I show this to her what do u think it'll do?
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#11974 - 04/04/04 09:09 PM
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Either scare her, annoy her, or she wont change her mind.
It's not going to yield any positive results. Her telling you no, means no. Unfortunately. Like the rest of the guys here said, move on. Thats what I did and now I have an amazing girlfriend whos a million times better than the one I wanted. If it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone.
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#11975 - 04/04/04 09:24 PM
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It's unfortunate, but this looks like a solid no. As everyone else has advised, you should try your best to get over her.
Guilt trips won't work, and neither will anything else. Just as no one controls your thoughts and desires, so you will not be able to control the desires of others. Sad has it right, any further action is only likely to strain your relationship and intensify your pain...
look to the future
Edited by Steppenwolf (04/04/04 09:25 PM)
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#11976 - 04/04/04 11:10 PM
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Sadly.... You sound like me. It's time to move on buddy.
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#11977 - 04/05/04 04:21 PM
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its her life and shes gonna live it however she wants to... and do you really want a gf, because she feels guilty for rejecting you?
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#11978 - 04/05/04 08:16 PM
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I never showed it to her I realized I was trying to manipulate her and that's just wrong. I guess if it's meant to happen it'll happen. Yes I do want a girlfriend.
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#11979 - 04/05/04 09:43 PM
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Weapon
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What would annoying her do?
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#11980 - 04/05/04 10:54 PM
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websexinfo
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probably alienate her and destroy possibility for friendship
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#11981 - 04/05/04 10:56 PM
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If I get your question, he's not suggesting that you annoy her. He's merely answering your question about what your message would accomplish- you'd likely annoy or scare her.
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#11982 - 04/06/04 12:54 AM
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Weapon
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oh, aight I see now.
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