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#290014 - 09/13/07 09:18 PM
Re: stop the triggers
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katonsuiiton
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"...but how do i stay away from it that i don't know will?..."
- Anything can get you into deep -shit-. It all depends on what you say and how you say it. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't stop expressing your opinions. I'm not really sure how you put yourself into this "crap" you mention in the two threads, as I haven't been very well keeping up with the two, but I think it could do with how you express yourself and what you say first that causes people to think whatever about whatever.
I don't ever think anything should stop you from stating your opinion, unless its something as bad like you're going to get shot if you do, but something like an argument shouldn't put tape over your lips. You have opinions that deserve to be shared and whatever people think about them is their business.
One of the policies of A2A is the respect of members towards other poster's opinions. If they can't keep themselves saying things that induce arguments for no good reason when you didn't mean it, then it's their problem. But execution of opinion does matter. It'd be smarter to say "I think, at times..." rather than "OMG I HATE BLAH BLAH BLAH BECAUSE ALL OF THEM ARE BLAH BLAH BLAH..."
Sorry if this post is inconsistent with anything. I don't know how the past situations on the earlier threads were like, so I'm not sure I can provide much insight.
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#290017 - 09/13/07 10:02 PM
Re: stop the triggers
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no one has stopped me from saying my opinions. I’m not talking about
Wut I mean by “I put myself into this crap” I mean I opened the thread and I read it. My own fault.
Witch means it’s my fault for making myself feel like shit.
Every body here probably already knows ..and if they don’t well it will be after reading this. When I was posting things to those threads they made me think of things I wish would just leave. Now instead of leaving more and more just keep joining in. I sent my sister to prison.. She’s bad but not as bad as those people in that thread I just don’t understand why they were let to do that to that woman. She’ll never be right in the head…ever.
She raped me multiple times and a few times she had to have aid. I can’t count the times she came in and started whispering to me and touching and me telling her I was too sleepy. She didn’t care and when I was ready (as she would say) she made me look at it… she said thing to me to make sure she pointed out that I wanted it too. Even tho I didn’t… it took me years of therapy to figure out she was fucking with my head. Those times were no different that the ones when she held me down. I’m not even going to talk about the beatings…… I can’t talk about anything anymore.
It’s just none of this shot would be going on if I had stayed away from the shit that got me thinking about the shit……
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#290022 - 09/13/07 11:25 PM
Re: stop the triggers
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Its horrible.
I think its a sorta emotional masochism. If you have ever had a sore.. you know it will hurt when you touch it.. yet, you do anyway.
I might be wrong but, I think we as humans are drawn to pick at our wounds despite our better judgment.
Maybe I am misunderstanding what your saying. But, I get the general idea you see something.. You know its gunna remind you of things you really don't want to remember... yet you look at it anyway.
If thats what your talking about I have no idea on how to help you.. I just know that I dwell on certain topics far more then its healthy too myself..
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#290028 - 09/14/07 12:11 AM
Re: stop the triggers
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Do you find that you click on the threads anyway because you hope, even though there's a chance of remembering and you acknowledge that, to not remember the things and try to act as though you've gotten over it? That would probably be the case with me, though I don't mean to imply that I can empathize myself so much as to put myself in your position, as I am 100% sure I have no idea what it's like to go through what you've been through.
But one thing I guess you could try to do is create new perspectives to what you think of something when you see it, and try and make your first thought of what you see/hear something else than it is now. I'm not really sure on how to do that, but it's just one of these crazy mentality tricks I myself have. If I were to do this, I'd create new memories with those words by hanging out with friends more and talking about the views of racism and other stuff, but I don't think this is a very good way of going about this problem, but personally, it'd be the first thing I'd do.
Sorry that I misunderstood you the first time. Thank you, you two for making me understand better. Let me apologize for my misperception (word?).
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I agree with helms now. Another reason I had thought of was that you have some hope that there is a problem in that thread similar to yours and you want to help that person because you know what it's like, even though you get reminded of incidents in the end. Helms has put anything I would want to say in a better, more relative tone than I would, being as though he knows you better than I do.
I don't really think my post poses much validity (word?) now. Sorry to post something that doesn't help much at all :T.
Edited by katonsuiiton (09/14/07 12:18 AM)
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#290033 - 09/14/07 12:53 AM
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I could be wrong guys...
But, I think what he is saying.. is he will be sitting there..
He will be sorta indifferent. He sees a thread he knows is going to bring up thought he doesn't want.
He knows its not a good thing to dwell on those thoughts.
He knows that the more he dwells on them the more emotionally unstable he will become.
Yet, he clicks on the thread anyway.. despite the fact he knows before its overwith he is going to be a mess.
I don't think he is saying he has problems with expressing his emotions or opinions. I believe he is saying he knows he is gunna feel like shit when he reads the topic.. he knows he is gunna hate himself for reading the topic.
Yet, he does it anyway. I think the issue is that he is afraid that its going to end up being detrimental in the long run..
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#290065 - 09/14/07 04:15 PM
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“I might be wrong but, I think we as humans are drawn to pick at our wounds despite our better judgment.”
Lol.. Yea I do that too.
““Maybe I am misunderstanding what your saying. But, I get the general idea you see something.. You know its gunna remind you of things you really don't want to remember... yet you look at it anyway.”
Yea it’s pretty much wut I am talking about. It’s like I stand at the edge of my closet and reach in to get my shirts but never go fully into it. I don’t want to change thinking about it, but it’s not the same closet……… but still it’s a closet. So I know not to do that but yet I’m dumb enough to read something that could …well trigger shit.
I know I shouldn’t read things but I still do to see wut it is. If I could help some one……… but that never happens.
“he clicks on the thread anyway.. despite the fact he knows before its over with he is going to be a mess
Yea.. When I first read his question in the rape.. I was ok. It wasn’t till I couldn’t get into some heads that …well they just don’t get it or don’t want to get it. As I try to tell them wut I’m talking about so they’d get it I end up thinking about more.. and more.. And it’s not good. Then I get pissed cuz it’s not understood and then I get aggravated cuz I can’t explain.
“Do you find that you click on the threads anyway because you hope, even though there's a chance of remembering and you acknowledge that, to not remember the things and try to act as though you've gotten over it?
It never really crosses my mind untill it starts. it’s kind of like I’m not thinking about it. I haven’t been thinking about her so…. And then she comes visiting. Like I was saying ^ it really got to me when I tried to make them see wut I was trying to tell them. And I really had no clue the murder thing was going to effect me at all.
At times I am scared to say wut I think tho too…….. And sometimes (tho not as bad as I used to be) I will post and then think and tell myself things and delete it.
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#290066 - 09/14/07 04:21 PM
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remember that time you were tellign me about acrupuntier. were u get stuck with needles. sounded intersting untill i started thinking about how it fills to be poked with a needle.
it's jsut things like that ......... how do i stay away from it?
i mean.. how can i stay away if i don;t know it;s going too. is it even a bossble thing to do?
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#290072 - 09/14/07 04:51 PM
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I know exactly what you mean CR, believe me.
A LOT of threads on here will make me feel like shit before I even read them... some make me sick, some make me depressed, some make me mad, etc....
Why do I read them then? I dunno, but I can tell you that I wouldn't have very much to read if I stayed away from all those threads.
I guess you can say I have a lot of problems since so many things will affect me in a bad way...
But I don't know what you can doa bout it CR. If I find out, I'll let you know..
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