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#291604 - 09/25/07 02:22 PM psychopath?
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My soon to be nephew in law honestly has somethinng wrong with him, he has ALOT of the symptoms of a psycopathic child(Heres a site about it and hes has just about everyone of the syptoms listed http://www.crimelibrary.com/criminal_mind/psychology/psychopath/4.html), ive done some research about it, because hes really getting bad, but his parents(this is there first and only child), grandparents(havent raised a child in 20 years) and uncle(never been around kids execpt his nephew)think its no big deal but i have 5 neices and nephews and none of them act near as bad as him, i dont know what to do, if i try to tell my fiance(the chils uncle) he will just think I"M the one who needs help. can someones please help me with what do you? im really getting worried about about this.


Heres a list of some of the things this child has done

1.throws rock,metal toys and other things at people to try to hurt them and laughs when someone gets hurt
2.trys to hurt animals(he's killed a bird)
3.tried to shut a car door on my fiances head
4.gets EXTREMELY mad and dangerous when he doesnt get his way(if u pick of one of his toys, he trys you hurt you by hitting,throwing things at you and other things)

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#291606 - 09/25/07 02:25 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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How old is he? and when did it start?
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#291608 - 09/25/07 02:26 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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this is gonna sound crazy....but hes 3

hes been this way as long as he could walk


Edited by StarWarsChick (09/25/07 02:27 PM)

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#291611 - 09/25/07 02:34 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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OMG.....its a real life devil child, well normally i'd say take too see a doctor but a 3 year old. I don't now much about this stuff its never been in my family sorry. Maybe he will go out of it but i don't some1 with more experience with this could help you sorry im no help 2 you.
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#291612 - 09/25/07 02:36 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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its ok. thanks for trying \:\)
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#291614 - 09/25/07 02:40 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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But i would like too add one thing, if he doesn't grow out of it then it needs to be sorted fast because chances it will start affecting every1 in your family ALOT, That my view.
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#291617 - 09/25/07 02:48 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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yeah, thats what im worried about.
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#291618 - 09/25/07 02:49 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Sounds like a case for the Super Nanny!
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#291623 - 09/25/07 03:06 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: Roc]
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Doesn't sound like a bad idea that, over here we have this super nanny on TV that helps with this stuff, give it ago.I mean a specalist in this field u have 2 try something its only gonna worse if not better.
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#291624 - 09/25/07 03:13 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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its not my son though, its not even my ACTUAL nephew is my fiances nephew, if i tried to do something like that my fiance,his sister(childs mother)and the grandparents would all probably hate me or something
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#291629 - 09/25/07 03:59 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Then talk too his parents about it about get your fiance too do it. lol he doesn't have 2 go on TV u know.
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#291637 - 09/25/07 04:46 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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if i talk to his parents they would seriously probably hate me. and my fiance would be very pissed about it too
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#291638 - 09/25/07 04:50 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Well they can't sit and do nothing can they something has too be done. If he does something else wrong just surgest the option of a specalist, i really don't see why they would get so upset.
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#291653 - 09/25/07 06:11 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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I see two possiblities here, but they are just my opinions:

1) The parents aren't being parents. He could be acting out and doing the destructive acts that you are describing because he hasn't been disiplined enough or hasn't been taught humility and empathy.

2) There could be some neurological imbalance in his brain.

No one can be sure unless you take him to see a professional. His family may hate you, but you are doing the right thing for this child. People tend to forget that parents are not raising kids, they are raising adults.
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#291656 - 09/25/07 06:19 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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I agree that the parents should be getting a specialist's opinion. It may be a phase but it's disturbing. However, the best you can do, probably, is drop some hints to the parents.
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#291683 - 09/25/07 07:06 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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woooow i gave some helpful advice for once now there a first, anyway can this be passed on like from parents like in DNA, genes maybe some up the family tree had it u never know could ask for some advice of they did
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#291738 - 09/25/07 08:31 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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i dont wanna lose my fiance over this.btw the father has a temper but not a HORRIBLE one.
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#291744 - 09/25/07 08:41 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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How can u lose him over this, i don't get it. So your all gonna sit back watch him turn into a complete monster?
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#291745 - 09/25/07 08:44 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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we've argued over his nephew before and it didnt turn out well because he doesnt understand that his nephew has problems and YES i tried to explain it to him but he just thinks IM the crazy one
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#291746 - 09/25/07 08:46 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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well he doesnt think im crazy he just thinks im blowing it all out of proportion blah
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#291747 - 09/25/07 08:49 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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then he will see when his child end up doing more damage than he can imagin.
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#291752 - 09/25/07 08:54 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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its not his child its his nephew
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#291777 - 09/26/07 02:23 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Well sooner or later they will all have sit up and take notice, but u tryed thats the main thing for you and maybe like ineligble said maybe drop some hints.
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#291782 - 09/26/07 03:25 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Mind your own buisness, it's not your kid.
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#291784 - 09/26/07 06:48 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: Java_Addict]
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But she cares enough too try and help and thats good enough in my book. ;\)
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#291789 - 09/26/07 08:41 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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That's fine, but if a parent has an ass hole for a kid, odds are they know and don't know someone getting on them about it when they're probably trying to deal with it privatly, rather then have the whole family talk about it. It's their buisness, either way.
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#291802 - 09/26/07 10:26 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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If you really did tell the parents and all those other things, you've done all you can.
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#291811 - 09/26/07 02:22 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: Java_Addict]
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dont be such a jerk im marrying the kids uncle and all i want to know is what the heck to do about dealing with the freakin kid(the parents arent doing anything about it and they arent going to) cause i am gonna have to be around him the rest of my life
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#291814 - 09/26/07 02:29 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Thats what i meant before if this is not sorted soon it will start efecting your life and it always by the sound of it and the kids only 3. Maybe you could just keep givin hints about it to his parents about the problem, he still might grow out of it so one half of this could be a waiting game but i hope not(if that makes).
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#291816 - 09/26/07 02:32 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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yeah. ive dropped hints, but his parents are always saying stuff about how he acts and they just laugh like its no big deal, so dropping hints hasnt done anything .grr
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#291818 - 09/26/07 02:38 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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 Originally Posted By: StarWarsChick


Heres a list of some of the things this child has done

1.throws rock,metal toys and other things at people to try to hurt them and laughs when someone gets hurt
2.trys to hurt animals(he's killed a bird)
3.tried to shut a car door on my fiances head
4.gets EXTREMELY mad and dangerous when he doesnt get his way(if u pick of one of his toys, he trys you hurt you by hitting,throwing things at you and other things)



Do they know he had done thesethings

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#291828 - 09/26/07 03:02 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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yes they see him do it all the time. and it was there bird that he killed(his moms the one who told me he killed it)
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#291830 - 09/26/07 03:07 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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> ive dropped hints, but his parents are always saying stuff about how he acts and they just laugh like its no big deal, so dropping hints hasnt done anything

If dropping hints doesn't work, then confront them about it. Tell them it's a serious problem that needs to be dealt with NOW.

Edit: At least ask them to get him checked out. If nothing's wrong with him, they should have nothing to worry about.


Edited by StillSearching (09/26/07 03:07 PM)

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#291832 - 09/26/07 03:10 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Well if this is the case your've done all u can do. You just have wait until they get the picture. Also do u like this child being around u like in your house do u look after him? If so maybe protest about him bein in your house or looking after him because u can't handle me. But other then that i just have 2 wait for his parents too sort them selves and there kid out.
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#291835 - 09/26/07 03:18 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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no he doesnt come to my house. i go to his uncles(my fiances) house and he still lives with his mother(the grandma) and the child is ALWAYS there the grandma watches him every weekend (and i stay the night there on the weekends cause its the only time i really get to see my fiance because of his job) and hes there alot during the week too
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#291838 - 09/26/07 03:23 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Then u just have too wait and see what happends, sorry if its not answer your looking for. But u tryed your best so your an ok girl
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#291846 - 09/26/07 03:46 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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you've made me feel alot better, thanks. \:\)
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#291847 - 09/26/07 03:50 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Im glad someones happy.....
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#291876 - 09/26/07 04:47 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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I certainly think it is your business, especially if this is going to be your family soon. I would hope if my kids were being jerks, my brother/sister/friend/whatever would tell me!

Unfortunately, this sounds like some really shitty parenting. \:\( And I don't think there is much you can do. The parents seem to be aware, but do not care. Don't worry though, once the kid gets into school his parents will have a rude awakening.
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#292038 - 09/27/07 02:33 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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You are not! He's not living with you, he's going to turn 18 some day and move on to his own life, andif there is ap roblem he'll see someone about it. Bottom line is that he isn't your kid, and it's not your buisness to try and act like a parent to a child that's not in your stead. If they wanted help, they would ask.
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#292129 - 09/27/07 07:54 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: Java_Addict]
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ok DO NOT respond to any of my posts again. and i hope your in my sistuation one day. it is my freakin buisness because im around him ALL the time and not by choice.....just stop responding to my posts your a jerk and if i could say more to you i would but im not gonna get kicked off this site because of some bored idiot
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#292142 - 09/27/07 11:02 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Lol wooooo calm down there missy, look your doing a great job but you done what u can so leave the child be fir a faw years like that other guy said his parents will soon get a wake up call so just hang in there.

Also whens the wedding day?

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#292177 - 09/28/07 02:53 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Java's one smart cookie, so she doesn't need no one defending her. But...

 Originally Posted By: StarWarsChick
ok DO NOT respond to any of my posts again. and i hope your in my sistuation one day.

You're talking to a mother. Who else would know better on how to deal with a child?

 Originally Posted By: StarWarsChick
it is my freakin buisness because im around him ALL the time and not by choice.....

What do you mean by that? Are you saying the parents dump this kid onto you all the time?*

 Originally Posted By: StarWarsChick
just stop responding to my posts your a jerk

Just because she says something you don't agree with doesn't make her a jerk. In fact, after reading up on all these posts, I agree with her. I mean, you've done all you can and if the parents don't want to do anything AND your fiancee, what more can you do?

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*Nevermind, I think I found my answer:


 Originally Posted By: StarWarsChick
no he doesnt come to my house. i go to his uncles(my fiances) house and he still lives with his mother(the grandma) and the child is ALWAYS there the grandma watches him every weekend (and i stay the night there on the weekends cause its the only time i really get to see my fiance because of his job) and hes there alot during the week too

So, stop going to his house? If they honestly just laugh at you because they think you're crazy, then I don't know what else you can do. Either just get used to it or stop going to your fiancee's house when the kid's over.

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If your own fiancee thinks you're crazy about his nephew and gets into an argument about it, then I suggest holding off the marriage. If he's going to be your husband, I think he should be more understanding rather than brushing this situation off and let you deal with HIS family.

None of my business though.


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#292179 - 09/28/07 04:32 AM Re: psychopath? [Re: Virtual_Star]
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Thanks hon ;\) I was going to let her think what she wants.


She doesn't understand I'm raising my 17 year old Neice who is a handful on her own, and my son.
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#292200 - 09/28/07 01:42 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: Virtual_Star]
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ok, first of all, my fiance doesnt think im crazy he also think the child has a problem, but not a much as a i do. and you may be a mother, but youve never met this kid, so you have no idea about his personality(i have 5 neices and nephews BTW and ive babysat them alot so i know about kids) .and im not going to stop seeing my fiance because of his nephew, i mean thats messed up. and i cant go there when hes not there, because hes there like evvvvveryday ,and my fiance knows i have a problem with the child but he cant keep the child from coming to his house, because my fiance lives with his mother(the grandma)and she watches him almost as much as the kids mother, and the grandma is always trying to get me and my fiance to watch the kid for some stupid reason.
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#292201 - 09/28/07 01:43 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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and i bet your 17 year old neice doesnt try to kill animals or slam a car door on your head or throw big metal cars at you!!!!!!!!!!!!
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#292202 - 09/28/07 01:44 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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BTW {star} the weddings in fall of 2009 or 2010
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#292211 - 09/28/07 02:24 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Woooooo can i come pretty plz with cherry on top . In a church?
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#292212 - 09/28/07 03:07 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: ]
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dont you live in england?...dunno where yet more than likely a church though
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#292213 - 09/28/07 03:12 PM Re: psychopath? [Re: StarWarsChick]
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Awwww yea i forgot about me being here :(......tell me how it goes? if we both still here. Send me some wedding cake btw ;\)
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