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#292218 - 09/28/07 05:19 PM
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StarWarsChick
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ok i will lol. too bad the wedding couldnt be in england, ive always wanted to go there. 
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#292221 - 09/28/07 05:37 PM
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England is a very bad place to go too
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#292278 - 09/29/07 03:47 AM
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ok, first of all, my fiance doesnt think im crazy he also think the child has a problem, but not a much as a i do.
Wait, what? Uh, didn't you say this?
we've argued over his nephew before and it didnt turn out well because he doesnt understand that his nephew has problems and YES i tried to explain it to him but he just thinks IM the crazy one
Keep your story straight. I get confuzzled easily. Anyway...
and you may be a mother, but youve never met this kid, so you have no idea about his personality(i have 5 neices and nephews BTW and ive babysat them alot so i know about kids) .
I was talking about Java being a mama, not me. I don't have any kids at the moment. And I believe you that you've been around kids. I'm from a Mexican family and believe ME, I've been around kids also, since they pop up like daisies. But the problem here is that this child is NOT your kid.
and im not going to stop seeing my fiance because of his nephew, i mean thats messed up. and i cant go there when hes not there, because hes there like evvvvveryday ,and my fiance knows i have a problem with the child but he cant keep the child from coming to his house, because my fiance lives with his mother(the grandma)
Then why don't you and your fiancee go out, instead of staying at home? You said that you rarely see each other, so why spend your little time with him babysitting a child that isn't your responsiblity?
he cant keep the child from coming to his house, because my fiance lives with his mother(the grandma)and she watches him almost as much as the kids mother, and the grandma is always trying to get me and my fiance to watch the kid for some stupid reason. 
Okay, the parents won't discipline him and his grandma won't watch him and the uncle doesn't seem to care and YOU get stuck with him? I really hope you think really hard about what you're getting yourself into (i.e. marriage).
In my most honest opinion, this child isn't your problem (even though it wasn't in the first place). I think it's your fiancee's family that is the problem. They get YOU to watch this kid, not your fiancee. And when you tell them that this child is out of control, they dismiss your opinion and concern.
In the end, what really matters is your own wellbeing. You need to worry about your own life and your own responsibilities. If you really tired to bring attention to this kid's family and they are not budging, then you've done all you could. Time to move and take care of yourself.
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#292382 - 09/30/07 03:19 AM
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Oooookay... Wow. So, in my opinion, kids don't fully understand things like death or pain. It usually has to be explained to them, because all they see is, if I do this, then I get a reaction. I'm sure he didn't really KNOW that the garage door would really hurt your fiance if it closed on him. And a lot of little kids throw fits when they don't get their way.
I mean, it's sad about the bird and everything, but there are lots of little kids that accidentally kill pets (for example, my cousin stuffed a cat in his plastic backpack to take to school for show and tell).
Also, it really isn't your place to tell someone about their kids, unless they straight out ask for your advice in private (jokes in public about the kid's behavior are not invitations). Trust me, they already KNOW that their kid acts naughty, and it's probably a sore subject (which is why your advice is even MORE unwelcome, since you aren't an "official" member of the family yet, and you don't seem very close to them).
Also, if the kid's parents are going through relationship problems, that can really cause a lot of child misbehavior...
But have you ever heard of the terrible twos? The threes are just as bad.
Edited by ajmakoko (09/30/07 03:20 AM)
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#292413 - 09/30/07 02:27 PM
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> my cousin stuffed a cat in his plastic backpack to take to school for show and tell
Is it bad if I find this funny?
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#292434 - 09/30/07 08:27 PM
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Okay, i understand that he's not my kid(thank the lord because i'd end up going insane) but it's my business when hes tries to hurt me or someone i love(btw i forgot to mention about a week ago he tried to stab me with a tooth pick, yeah i know just a tooth pick, but it could have been a knife).
and me and my fiance have faught about his nephew alot, and he does know the chid has a problem, but like i said, he doesn't think it's as bad as i do, I mean if i said "hey your nephews a psycopath", then he would think I'M the one with the problem,because he's never been around kids before his nephew, and who wants to believe someone in your family could be a psycopath?.
and you ask why we don't leave when the child comes over? well we do, but my fiances mom tries to make me and my fiance feel bad if we don't babysit him so we get stuck watching him because of that. there's just soooo much going on that you don't know, but i don't feel like typing it all because it would end up being a book lol.
and one other thing i'm not trying to be a jerk, but this child is really not like normal little kids and he's really driving me crazy.
the grandma tried to get us to watch him again this weekend but luckily we didn't end up having too, i really can't hardly stand to be around him, which is sad because i love kids but he REALLY isn't a normal child. 
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#292435 - 09/30/07 08:29 PM
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what's so bad about england {star}?
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#292439 - 09/30/07 08:51 PM
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and me and my fiance have faught about his nephew alot, and he does know the chid has a problem, but like i said, he doesn't think it's as bad as i do, I mean if i said "hey your nephews a psycopath", then he would think I'M the one with the problem,because he's never been around kids before his nephew, and who wants to believe someone in your family could be a psycopath?.
If there's someone who might have a violent problem, I believe anyone would care. But it's obvious that he and the rest of his family doesn't (or seem to mind). I just really don't like how your fiancee is just brushing this kid's problem off and letting you deal with his family.
and you ask why we don't leave when the child comes over? well we do, but my fiances mom tries to make me and my fiance feel bad if we don't babysit him so we get stuck watching him because of that. there's just soooo much going on that you don't know, but i don't feel like typing it all because it would end up being a book lol.
Your fiancee's mom is doing is playing you like a fiddle. I forget what it's call exactly, but she's manipulating you and using guilt to watch this kid. That is simply not right. It's not fair to you and this kid. He's a child, not a tool.
But hey, you know what you're getting yourself in to. You marry this guy and you marry his entire family. So, either think about this whole marriage ordeal or just get used to it.
Best of luck to you, honey.
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#292459 - 10/01/07 12:46 AM
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yeah, truthfully, i think he just doesn't know how to handle it since it's not his kid, he's said to me before that when we babysit his nephew he feels like he cant punish him since it's not his child(btw he doesnt want kids).
and yeah his mom is VERY manipulating and a HUGE drama gueen and she makes my fiance feel bad and do stuff for her alllll the time, i see it but once again, my fiance doesn't because it's his mom UGH!(but thats a LOOOONG story). but i love my fiance VERRRRRRRRRRRRRRY much, so i just deal with it. but i might start leaving when the kid comes over if i can(i dont have a car) and tell my fiance that i just cant deal with his nephew anymore, hes getting out of hand, and if my fiance gets mad owell, maybe he'll get the picture. thanks for everyones advice
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#292468 - 10/01/07 02:06 AM
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> but i might start leaving when the kid comes over if i can(i dont have a car) and tell my fiance that i just cant deal with his nephew anymore
Please come back and tell us what happened when you have done this.
For the record: I don't think you'll do it.
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#292697 - 10/02/07 10:51 PM
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and you know me? NO, go get a life and stop bugging me!!!
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#292808 - 10/03/07 11:49 PM
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THANK YOU DxLISHxISx_43!!!!!!!!!....java you are a total a*s.
yes i came here for opinions, good HELPFUL ones, not idiots talking about rat traps.
i haven't even said anything to the parents, and they don't think i'm crazy, you must not have read all of what i've said, and i know what a fiance is you dumbf*ck and all of my FIANCES family sticks there noses in me and my FIANCES business so go bug someone else and stop replying to my posts!!!
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