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#313630 - 04/08/08 10:32 PM
Feel Depressed.
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Okay so here's my story.
I'm 15 years old(sophomore) live with my 18 yr.old sister(senior), 3yr. old brother and Mom. We all work except my younger brother of course, But my mom is the one mainly paying the monthly rent bill my sister and I both try too help my mom the best we can. I give her money for her gas some food and my sister too helps with the rent money. My mom looks so depressed every day and i just can't stand seeing her like this. She does her BEST to be a good mother and she is I love her so much for everything she has done for us. She wants to move to Utah we live in California, but it's a big step first my sister has too finish high school here. But we still have too wait till my sister graduates and while then we have too pay our bills, my mom is in debt but not so deep into it i don't think. She gets laid of her job allot and it's really stressful for her and hard. Everyday she comes home makes food and goes too sleep and takes care of my brother.
So here's the deal with my brother he is really, an attention needed child. Just resently his father moved out of our house and
left my mom with some bills that our his in her name. My brother
is always asking my mom i want my daddy my mom doesn't want him to see him no more. But she doesn't want too take him away from him, because it's not his fault. My brother he is really stubborn and when he comes back from his dads house on the weekends he's a asshole (yea i know he's a little kid) but he acts like we are not his family no more and all he cares about is his dad.
All this is really depressing for me because i'm not so good with my grades and i have to HAVE too keep my job. Too have a job i have too have a work permit, and 2 weeks ago i barley got my work permit and i had the best grades ever! But now this week we had a alot of projects do and i did ZERO of them so now my grades are going too go down.
I don't know what too do about all this it's driving me crazy! My mom needs so much stuff and my brother that i want too give them but can't, i feel so helpless... Then my friends like too go out alot so i have too have money for that too and it's just too much! My mom doesn'nt get NO help from my fcking DAd he changes his name so that he doesn't have to pay child supposrt then he started his own family some were in the ghetto! Arrrg.
I just can't seem too make myself happy no more i have too cover my sadness up! I don't like talking too people about my problems because I'm usually the guy that everyone comes too about there problems. And arrrg!
i don't know
Srry about the long post.
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#313672 - 04/09/08 04:29 AM
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That's a tough situation to be in, `Question.  Something I think is important is not to feel that it's your responsibility to look after everyone. Of course you should help to the best of your ability, but you should look after yourself as well. Your mother and your sister are adults and ought to be taking a greater share of the burden than you.
Try not to pawn your future for the present. If you contribute less to the family they'll still get by, and you can spend more time on schoolwork.
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#313675 - 04/09/08 09:29 AM
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I'm just gonna echo what Ineligible said. I know from personal experience just how needy things can get but do everyone a favor and focus on school. Hone in on it like nothing you ever have. It can be the ticket to helping everyone you want. Look at it this way, sacrifice some more now so that later in life when your mom can't work or has other needs you can have the job an education will buy you to help take better care of her, maybe even your brother with his education.
As for dealing with the stress of the situation your currently in, always remember to keep a little time for yourself. Time that you can pursue the things you like and enjoy, within your means of course. I don't believe in self affirmations but realize when you've done the best you can, and if it still wasn't enough it's behind you and not worth worry now anyway. Don't stress about what didn't work out or what might be. Break down your challenges into manageable sizes. Deal with what you can as your capable. The things you can't deal with here and now, will just have to wait... and they will. Don't try to do it all. Do what you can and know that is all anyone can ask of you. Anything more is unreasonable and unrealistic.
Just do what you can to deal with the present while always being mindful of the future.
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#313823 - 04/10/08 12:42 AM
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Well thx guys now i kind of get what you guys are talking about.
Made my day today!
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