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#316431 - 05/11/08 05:08 AM
I'm beginning to not enjoy my relationship...
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bobalicious
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Well I've made it to the 6 month mark and I'm kind of annoyed at the contents of my relationship. I feel like its nothing like it was before, its no longer 2 people lusting after each other, enjoying every moment together. Now its just 2 people hanging around together constantly while one of them sleeps all day and the other one wakes her up occasionally begging for sex. Its like I've been married for 20 years...
I'm with her nearly all the time, both in college and outside because we're staying in her aunty's house just down the road from the college. Unless she has a meeting or if I have a class, I'm usually stuck following her around for the day. If I want to do something with my friends that she doesn't want to do, she puts on a sad face and talks about me abandoning her, guilting me into staying. The same thing happens when I try to question any aspect of the relationship with her, she goes all sad-face on me and even starts crying as if on cue!
She is older than me by a few years, but I never realised how immature she is. At home she's a spoilt only-child who talks ridiculously disrespectfully to her parents, especially her mother. And altho I have no right to say anything on her family dynamics, I get sucked in when she fights with her mum right in front of me and I feel forced to take sides.
Things seem to always be her decision. Like yesterday, she was going to visit her aunty in hospital with her parents so I was gonna go to the cinema and see Iron Man while she was in there (its a family thing, she's a very private woman and only wants family visiting her). But the old ball & chain wanted me to wait in the back of her parent's car for over 45 minutes so we could drive to my house afterwards. I eventually reached a compromise where I'd just go home and I'd wait for her.
I'll finish this later, she's currently arguing with me from across the room.
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#316432 - 05/11/08 05:20 AM
Re: I'm beginning to not enjoy my relationship...
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This doesn't sound healthy at all. When there's something reasonable you want to do, you should put your foot down and do it. Don't let her get away with emotional blackmail. If she leaves over something like that, she wasn't worth keeping.
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#316436 - 05/11/08 02:48 PM
Re: I'm beginning to not enjoy my relationship...
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I'm with her nearly all the time, both in college and outside because we're staying in her aunty's house just down the road from the college.
I think that's part of the problem. Living together.
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#316480 - 05/12/08 02:39 PM
Re: I'm beginning to not enjoy my relationship...
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Don't let her dictate your life or walk all over you. You both need to give in relationship, not just you. If she can't handle giving of herself then it might be time to move on.
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#316612 - 05/13/08 10:53 AM
Re: I'm beginning to not enjoy my relationship...
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Bobbo, you know where this si going, an itsall spelt out for ya on this thread, youv answered the same shit for other people in other threads.
You may not want to see it,but you already know it.
Shit has to change or you have to end it.
and take a fucking break for christ sakes! you two see each other all teh time! I live with Julie, I love her, Iv been living with her for 4 years now and dating her for 5, but Im not with her every second of every day, the tiem Im apart from her makes the time Im with her that much better! Noone can be with a single other perosn 24/7/365 and notstart thinking baout killing them.
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#316862 - 05/15/08 07:08 AM
Re: I'm beginning to not enjoy my relationship...
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bobalicious
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Thanks for all the words guys. I think I just had a lot of stupid feelings building up for a very childish reason (sex life has dropped off considerably in the past month or two.) Things have lightened up now, I'm finally off college for the summer and I'm getting my free time now to relax. Exams went grand, don't see any problems with getting into second year. I won't be seeing the gf til tomorrow evening so hopefully it'll give me the relaxation time I need before Saturday. I'm going to her cousin's Communion with loads of her family. Apparently all the kids wanna play football with me for some reason and the aunties wanna judge me. Fun to be had! At least there will be alcohol...
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