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#316583 - 05/13/08 03:34 AM
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Well me and my girlfriend had sex for about 2 weekend now with no condom. I did not cum inside her but outside. But we had sex more than once a day without any protection. We had sex because she is severely allergic to latex and she is going to get birth control pills soon. Her last recorded period ended around Febuary the 14th or so and so far she has been on time except for now I think. Im not sure if Im calculating her period right. All I did was add 28 days and I think she is late. Is this right? Could I get some guys to help me estimate? But this week she has stressed alot because of school and other matters. Can someone help me and give me some advice please?
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#316584 - 05/13/08 03:52 AM
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Once again, you seem to have a hard time understanding the seriousness of your actions. You're playing with fire, and sooner or later, you're going to get burned.
My advice: Have her take a test and you two should stop having sex. If she's allergic to latex, then either get polyurethane condoms or just don't have sex until she's on the pill.
Her last recorded period ended around Febuary the 14th or so and so far she has been on time except for now I think
This part I'm not sure what you're saying. Was her very last period in Feburary? If so, she's over three months late. But you then go on saying you "think" she's been on time. If you're not sure when her last period was, why don't you ask her to get the facts straight.
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#316586 - 05/13/08 04:29 AM
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Not sure if your mentioning me or my friend but my friend refered me to this site because he got alot of help here and this is my first time  . Ive heard him repeat to me that I shouldnt be playing with sex but I didnt heed his warnings. Well Febuary was the last time I recorded she had her period but she had one in March but im not sure when. She also started her period around April 12th. Im not sure how to count her period days but I heard alot of stress can post pone the menstrual cycle?
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#316588 - 05/13/08 04:42 AM
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Lol, people sharing the same name sure is confusing. 
Anyway, her last one was on April. That's about a month ago. As I type this it's May 13th. If she hasn't had her period yet, then she's a day or two late, which is nothing to worry over. Yes, stress can delay a period.
If she's over a week or two late, then get her a pregnancy test. But right now, I wouldn't hit the panic button yet. From what you described, the chance of pregnancy is low, but don't rely on luck! Know that precum MAY contain sperm cells and it only just takes one. Just hold off on sex until she's on the pill. Trust me, you can live without sex.
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#316589 - 05/13/08 04:47 AM
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Oh I hope so. Sorry to confuse you but he just gave me his account info and password to this site and said the people here esp the admins know what there talking about :P. Anyways yea she started around April 12th and ended probably somewhere along the lines of April 14th or something whenever girls end. She hasn't shown signs of pregnancy but her boobs do fill a slight tender ness. Eep.
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#316590 - 05/13/08 04:49 AM
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She hasn't shown signs of pregnancy but her boobs do fill a slight tender ness. Eep.
She's not going to show any signs until a couple of weeks. The breast thing can be simply puberty (assuming she's a teen).
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#316615 - 05/13/08 11:25 AM
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The standard time is 28 days but that can vary quite a bit.
Why can't you use lambskin condoms?
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#316623 - 05/13/08 02:54 PM
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There is lambskin, and there are also plenty of spermicide methods. Foams, gels, sponges, film...
Condoms protect from diseases, but if everyone is clean, I had great luck with the film. Discrete, easy to use, and not too expensive.
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#316628 - 05/13/08 04:19 PM
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I tried looking for sheepskin or animal skin condoms but I can't find any near our local gas stations or walmart. I live kind of far out in the country so there aren't really that many places I could go like Condoms-to-Go. I looked for KY Jelly Spermicide lube but I can't find any either. Does anyone know where I can buy them without purchasing them online?
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I asked her today and she said she indeed ended her period April 14th.
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#316629 - 05/13/08 04:25 PM
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Pretty much any place with a pharmacy for the spermicides, sheep skin condoms should be available too. I have never looked for sheep skin, latex has always been good for me.
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#316856 - 05/15/08 05:45 AM
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Im sorry for bugging everyone about my problems, Im sure everyones heard enough about idiots bitching about problems such as their negligence of wearing condoms. Im just really worried about my girlfriend of being pregant. Even though my friend who gave me this account told me the issues of unprotected sex, I didn't listen. :(. Just scared and feel sick to my stomach you know what I mean. When she has her period I will feel like a new man and be a new man. I know that sounds kinda corny buy you have to understand what anxiety I'm going through right now. But anyways I asked her when she ended and it was April 15th or 16th. So I added 28 days and she is a day or two late. This really worries me. She says the past couple of days though her boobs were tender and she had cravings. Today she said she felt like she was getting cramps. To inform you to the situation before, we had unprotected sex and I always came out of her (butt, stomach etc so I don't know if it dripped down but I made sure to wipe the cum off her). Yea so anyone with any kind of experience or anything, could you please give me your personal opinion and outcome of my situation.
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#316866 - 05/15/08 08:35 AM
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Stress, including worry, can make a girl a week late. Any 'feeling pregnant' symptoms (such as food cravings) at this stage are likely to be psychosomatic.
You can use a pregnancy test even at this stage, if the possibility is stressing you out.
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#316918 - 05/15/08 03:12 PM
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So its all in her head? Are those symtoms the same as a period symptom?
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#316919 - 05/15/08 03:25 PM
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Yes, so relax. I told you to hit the panic button after she's over a week late. But if you're running around going crazy, have her take a test now.
You just have to understand that the 28 day rule isn't a solid. It varies from woman to woman. And to add stress to the equation, she can be late for a few days to over a week. It happens.
I hope you learned your lesson though. :P
Edited by Virtual_Star (05/15/08 03:28 PM)
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#321087 - 06/23/08 07:05 PM
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Well the good news is my girlfriend did have her period even though it was late. Alright so I took everyones advice and I started using some type of birth control. I couldn't find any stores or Condomns to Go to buy sheepskin condomns so I bought some spermicidal lube. I bought some Ky Jelly and used it everytime I had sex. But later I realized that it wasnt spermicidal. The man at the store had brought me just regular lube and not the spermicidal kind. I feel like a complete idiot. I just felt embarrassed to buy spermicidal lube so I didn't even check the label. Please don't critisize me for what I have done, I'm just a plain idiot. Anyways well we had sex with this lube and I never came in her. Shes about 4 to 5 days late on her period and we both decided to take the pregnancy test. The pregnancy test came back negative. Is she prengnant.
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#321093 - 06/23/08 07:20 PM
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Almost certainly she isn't - she's just late again.
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#321098 - 06/23/08 07:47 PM
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Periods are wacky. I have mine every 35-36 days, though they say "normal" is 28 days. Make sure she is keeping track on a calendar or something of the first day she starts.
I just put a purple dot on the calendar. Very inconspicuous but it does the trick.
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#321100 - 06/23/08 07:51 PM
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you're so lucky! If I'm not on birth control, I get mine every 20 days! :-(
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#321102 - 06/23/08 08:00 PM
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That would SO suck. I tried Nor Plant. It made me bleed more than not. So I went back to rolling the dice with condoms and spermicide.
As for the pill...why would I want my period MORE often?
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#321213 - 06/24/08 06:41 PM
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WOW she still hasn't started yet. :(. I mean she took the pregnancy test and it came back negative but she is a week late now. What is happening.
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#321215 - 06/24/08 06:45 PM
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Probably stress at this point.
If she takes it at the same time every day, and doesn't miss any days, she should have it. BUT if she is stressing, that can stop it all together.
Give it a week or more, then do another home test: your supposed to use the first urine in the morning. And if you guys are still freaking out, go see a doc.
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#321258 - 06/25/08 12:29 AM
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Ya I know its so frustrating because I tried to take extra precautions and extra care this time and I ended up being even more of an idiot than before and more in a bad situation. Late period sucks. Safe sex is great. Unsafe sex sucks. This sucks.
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#321267 - 06/25/08 03:54 AM
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And the thing is, she said she doesn't feel stressed that much either. She just started working a lot and hasn't been eating right though.
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#321283 - 06/25/08 11:08 AM
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She just started working a lot and hasn't been eating right though.
AKA Stress.
You can be handling it in your head just fine, and your body can react to it.
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#321352 - 06/25/08 07:11 PM
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Yea she took another pregnancy test today and it became negative. So this is really confusing.
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#321353 - 06/25/08 07:19 PM
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There is nothing to be confused about. Her body is stressed, and worry of pregnancy is stressing her head, so she is late.
Taking BC pills on time every day should help get her back on track.
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#321408 - 06/26/08 03:01 AM
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She doesn't take BC pills. She doesn't take anything.
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#321409 - 06/26/08 03:14 AM
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She meant that if she started taking pills she would become regular with her periods.
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#321446 - 06/26/08 04:15 PM
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Yep, I was even considering them for my kiddo at one point. Unpredictable, and painful. But she has regulated finally.
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#321520 - 06/27/08 01:32 AM
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You can be handling it in your head just fine, and your body can react to it.
That's an excellent point, Pepsi. I think it applies to a lot of other effects of stress, too. Indeed, I think the conscious part of your brain can be handling it fine, and the unconscious part isn't.
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#321596 - 06/28/08 04:39 AM
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She still hasn't got her period but yesterday she took the pregnancy test in the morning and it came back negative. Do you guys think she is pregnant because this is literally driving me insane.
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#321597 - 06/28/08 04:49 AM
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No, I don't think she is pregnant.
I do think you need to take better precautions to avoid this stress every month.
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#321622 - 06/28/08 04:21 PM
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I do think you need to take better precautions to avoid this stress every month.
Indeed.
Tommy, whatever happened to her getting on birth control?
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