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#346178 - 07/25/09 04:46 AM
How to come out to the 'rents.
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Amped94
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I know about 101831834712930 people have asked this question, but whats the best way to come out to my parents? I'm sure they will support me once i tell them but I just can't make the words "I'm gay" come out of my mouth! advice?
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#346180 - 07/25/09 12:58 PM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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Avnt come out yet, but I heard that it usually helps if you have some one there and PFLAG info in hand.
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#346217 - 07/26/09 03:47 AM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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what do you mean have some one there? like a friend who already knows?
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#346279 - 07/28/09 01:13 PM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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You could go home, tel them you have had some headaches and felt shitty, saw a doctor and after alot of tests its confirmed that you have a brain tumor and have about 3 months to live.
WHen they freak out, say "just kidding! Im not gonna die, Im just gay!"
See how that works out for ya.
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#346283 - 07/28/09 03:22 PM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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my way brings relief! "your not dead? just gay? that is so much less worse!"
Myself, I would not be thrilled about my son being gay, but he would still be my son.
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#346284 - 07/28/09 04:28 PM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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Yeah I don't think many parents are happy (though I do know a few) when their child comes out, just thankfully in most cases parents have the same resolution as yourself "They are still my child".
And most of the time the reasons most parents take it hard when they find out they have a gay child is not because of the child actually being gay but because they know life is going to be harder for their child, which was the issue my mother had when I came out to her.
Though I admit the way I came out to my mother was a bit.. well I guess sudden lol. I was 18 and my boyfriend and I walked out of my bedroom one morning and my mother was making breakfast and I said "Morning Mom... this is my boyfriend Rick, Rick this is my Mom Linda." LoL
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#346299 - 07/29/09 01:43 AM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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Yea a freind that already knows. That way you parents can't yell to much or anything. And they might cut you off I've heard of that to. Oh and if your not having sex let them know but if you are don't let them know cause parents don't want to worry about there kids getting aids or somthing.
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#346300 - 07/29/09 01:51 AM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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Oh and if your not having sex let them know but if you are don't let them know cause parents don't want to worry about there kids getting aids or somthing.
Gay or not, parents always worry when it comes to teens and sex. That's why it's important to talk about safe sex openly. However, I would think that sex and sexual orientation are two different topics.
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#346306 - 07/29/09 03:10 AM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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Ope. Not always. From what I heard parent with homosexual children worry more often about there child getting AIDS than parents with heterosexual kids. But it all just depends on who your parents are.
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#346320 - 07/29/09 12:46 PM
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Having just turned fifteen, how sure are you that your parents will be accepting of your revelation? It's one thing to be accepting of someone else who is gay but another to be accepting of someone if your own house. Just put that in the back of your mind. You know them better than anybody and can judge better than anyone how they may react.
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#346323 - 07/29/09 02:13 PM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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It's one thing to be accepting of someone else who is gay but another to be accepting of someone if your own house.
This is very true. My boyfriends mother has gay friends and has always been supportive of the gay community. But when she found out Adam was gay she took it very hard (thank God he was living with me when she found out and not living at home still), and now 4 years later she is just now really seeming to come to terms and accept it.
But weirdly enough his Grandmother knows and loves me to pieces and treats me like I'm part of the family, but than again her best friends are a gay couple lol.
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#346350 - 07/29/09 08:13 PM
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Well that's due to stereotypes placed that men aren't always as safe, and although some of it is true, the majority isn't.
All I can say to you, Amped, is that, no matter what, you're still their child, and they'll still love you.
In Will&Grace, in the episode where Will (main char.) came out, they showed his dad crashing the car into a telephone pole, but later, in the story, at the end, his dad just told him, "You're my son, that's all I know."
It was very touching.
I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide to do.
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#346366 - 07/30/09 10:44 AM
Re: How to come out to the 'rents.
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Ope. Not always. From what I heard parent with homosexual children worry more often about there child getting AIDS than parents with heterosexual kids. But it all just depends on who your parents are.
I don't buy that. From what I have observed there are to kinds of parents. Those who will worry whether their kid is sky-diving or walking down the hall and those who have the attitude they'll be okay regardless what they're doing. I can't think of any middle of the road parents I've ever noticed.
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