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#350578 - 11/09/09 12:56 AM
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sunnysunshine
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Who knows anything about this? Im so confused. Ive read online about it, but i just dont know if thats what s going on with me or not. Yes i know i need to get out of my emotional abusive marrige,with a cheating husband, and so much more. but other than trying to take care of myself, im worried about him and where he will go and if he will be ok. At this point i dont know why i should care, but why do i? Im so mad at myself. Why cant i just tell him to leave and file for divorce and just focus on myself and my kids? This is killing me. ....
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#350581 - 11/09/09 03:25 AM
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I think some people, especially girls, are brought up with the idea, firmly hammered in, that they have to look after other people, and they find it very hard to say no to that, even when it is clearly the right thing to do.
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#350606 - 11/09/09 11:40 PM
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Question?
Can you live on your own? do you like being at home by yourself? Or do yu freak out and need someone there with you.
If you can't be by yourself then your co-dependent
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#350634 - 11/10/09 04:12 PM
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sunnysunshine
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I have never lived on my own. Ive lived with my husband pretty much right out high school. IM 35 now. The thought of being alone does scare me. Its terrifying thinking of it.
I have major problems i know.
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#350642 - 11/10/09 05:12 PM
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I will say fuck co dependent bullshit.
know what I Think your problem is?
When you think about being responsible for all the money, all the bills and defending the house, and what if someone breaks in and whos going to mow the lawn and shovel the fucking snow and fix the sink and what if I do not have enough money, what if something happens to a kid...
Its overwhelming.
I do not think you need to be with someone as much as you fear if you can do it all on your own or not, and thats no co-dependent, its not he person you need, its the support.
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#350767 - 11/14/09 07:34 PM
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sunnysunshine
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I will agree with all of what you said. I am and have been dependant on him. And of course i am afraid of doing it all on my own.
Then what is your definition of a co dependant?
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#357217 - 03/19/11 05:10 PM
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Who knows anything about this? Im so confused. Ive read online about it, but i just dont know if thats what s going on with me or not. Yes i know i need to get out of my emotional abusive marrige,with a cheating husband, and so much more. but other than trying to take care of myself, im worried about him and where he will go and if he will be ok. At this point i dont know why i should care, but why do i? Im so mad at myself. Why cant i just tell him to leave and file for divorce and just focus on myself and my kids? This is killing me. ....
It sounds as though you are in a similar situation to a lot of people. You are used to a certain situation and change can be scary. You also have genuine care for someone who is not in an emotionally healthy state. You must do your best to not help him maintain his unhealthy lifestyle which may be hard for you. That is my 2 cents.
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#359431 - 01/28/12 03:47 AM
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sunnysunshine
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Just saw this. Thank you
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