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#352675 - 01/10/10 12:48 PM
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deadinside
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please, help, i can't deal anymore. i have suffered from depression for a long time, used to come on here a lot, even met my ex on here, it pretty much saved me. now, it's back, with a vengence. my partner and i have been together nearly 6 years. he's now turned into this nasty horrible man, more than he used to, more than i can cope with. i moved in with him a few years ago, moved away from family and friends, and so did he. so now i'm totally on my own, just me and him, never made friends, seem to be unable to for some reason, i must be really fucked up.
anyhoo, he has tuned out to be a horrible man. stuff has happened today, which btw is my birthday, that has totally fucked me up, things that are to others so small, but added to the rest of everything to make it a big deal. i have gone through the cupboards and found lots and lots of tablets, and i just wanna finish it, end it all, can't cope anymore, have no friends, just family who live 300 miles away, just me, all alone. i'm done. i need help. PLEASE!!
Becky xx
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#352677 - 01/10/10 05:58 PM
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Remember you have got through this before - you can again. With time, all things pass.
Have you called your family? 300 miles is a much shorter journey than the one from life to death.
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#352684 - 01/10/10 09:55 PM
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Pack a suitcase with your valuables and some clothes and take a grayhound to a family members house. If not call them and tell them to come get you, meet you half way.
You guys need some cooling off time and you need to get your head straight. That's what family is for....
Go get the support you need and take it one day at a time. the other way out is not the answer.
If you cant make that happen, call the battered women's hot line and arrange with them to go to one of their safe houses until you can get to your folks..
Don't stay in the place your at. It won't get any better without some distance..
MAKE THE CALL!!
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#352704 - 01/11/10 01:29 PM
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I have to disagree Roc.
I have known several girls who went through that shit, and one recently who was shot 2 times by her husband just a mile form my house. I knew him since 2nd grade and her for the last 10 years or so.
My Julie went through that shit as well, so did a very good friend of mine thats more like a sister to me.
Some of them went back several times, some went to counseling, none of it did any good. In Julies case her councilor asked her why she was so fucking dumb, and told her to pack her shit and get out.
I have never known anyone who went through this shit and went back and had shit work out fine, with help from outside or not.
The abuser never changes, they do for a while, then old patterns emerge and its right back to where it was, or worse.
Battered women center? great idea! thats what they are there for. Running to family ? another great idea.
Based on everything I know, and its all second hand, but from people that lived through it, get the fuck out, run and do not look back.
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#352735 - 01/12/10 01:25 AM
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I have never known anyone who went through this shit and went back and had shit work out fine, with help from outside or not.
The abuser never changes, they do for a while, then old patterns emerge and its right back to where it was, or worse.
Although I disagree that counselling doesn't help (one on one with a psychologist or psychiatrist can honestly change your life.) Even if the abuser does change, it isn't worth it to stay in the relationship. Very often the victim brings about emotions in the abuser that allow them to more easily repeat because they have already done it before. It's better for BOTH parties this way.
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