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#354816 - 06/12/10 01:34 AM
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TangledWeb
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Would you think I am crazy/paranoid if I reply to someone that I'm not comfortable with meeting them in person yet, and that I don't have a car and I'm not comfortable with having them pick me up at my house?
Why don't guy understand that a few emails back and forth is not equivalent to knowing someone, but starting to get to know someone maybe? Don't people understand that there are crazy people out there, that may or may not be them? I was emailing a guy from a dating site and and I could tell from what he wrote that it thought I was a nutcase. Here was are conversation:
Me: You're attractive, and I want to get to know you, see if the inside matches...well that's if you want to get to know me too.
May 31, 2010 – 11:58pm
Him: wow!! thanks a lot!! you're too!!!!!
when you want to meet??
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Jun. 1, 2010 – 11:59am
Me: Hmmm...I usually message back and fourth before I meet someone in person. I need to get some idea of who they are, whether or not they're crazy. 
So, how are you liking it here?
Jun. 2, 2010 – 12:37am
Him: hehe, yeah, I know what are you talking about...
I like it, even though I hear people complaining that Houston is boring I think it depends on person. I don't have a lot of friends and still I'm not boring, always trying to do smth....
what are you doing in your life??
are you from *******??
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Jun. 2, 2010 – 12:58am
Me: ****** can be fun. There are a lot of interesting places, I just never get anywhere. Most people that complain about it being boring, like the rowdy nightlife or a lively party/club scene. I like things that are low key.
I'm studying art in college. I love love design, and write. I'm trying to get everything in order. I plan to graduate in a year and a half, tops.
I'm originally from a small town, way out in the country...with cows and stuff.
What's it like where you're from, rural or urban?
Jun. 2, 2010 – 1:55am
Him: yeah, you right!!
whahahahahaha, cool!!
I'm from Moscow, so it's urban...
but I like hunting a lot, so I'm not a city boy, I've been to country side a lot and I like it!!
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Jun. 2, 2010 – 1:22pm
Me: I like the country best, peaceful and quiet, but the city has convenience.
So what kinds of woman do you like? What is important to you?
Jun. 3, 2010 – 12:58am
Him: woman?? I don't have a typical woman that I would like...
there is a lot of things that are important for me, but right now I just broke with my gf and we were dating 2.5 years. we broke because she is in Russia and I'm here, so there is no point of keeping relationships...
so I'm not looking for smth serious, if you know what I mean, cause I want to be honest...
I like eyes, eyes are very important...then legs and ass. that's my favourite parts of the body.
what about you?? what do you like about boys??
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Jun. 3, 2010 – 8:41pm
Me: I like intelligence, ambition, kindness, compassion, thoughtfulness, a good sense of humor, an open mind.... Those are the first things I thought of.
I have found that I'm more physically attracted to guys with dark hair and eyes. I like small guys, I don't like a lot of muscles.
Well if things got "serious", I'd like for the other person to be open to that possibility.
Jun. 4, 2010 – 12:14am
Him: hm, that's cool!!
cause usually people look how person look like first and if they don't like it they don't care about personality...
I don't have a lot of muscles, I'm skinny, but my body is trained pretty good.
I didn't get the idea of your last thing....sorry...my English is not perfect yet...
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Jun. 6, 2010 – 3:04pm
Me: It's okay. I meant that if I wanted to get into a relationship with someone that I was friends with, it would be nice if the other person was open to the possibility of being in a relationship too.
Jun. 8, 2010 – 5:55pm
Him: yeah, I know...
so what do you think about meeting...??
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Jun. 9, 2010 – 11:10am
Me: I'll have to think about it. I don't like meeting people right away. It's hard to explain. It's a sad, pathetic, story.
Him: alright...heh
Jun. 10, 2010 – 11:32pm
Me: I would like to, but I don't have a car. It's pretty hard to get around without a car where I live and you're all the way in ******. It would be a hassle...I think.
Jun. 10, 2010 – 11:38pm
Him: where do you live??
I have a car, so I can pick u up....
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Jun. 10, 2010 – 11:40pm
Me: That would make me uncomfortable, 'cause then I'd have to tell you where I live.
Jun. 11, 2010 – 1:13am
Him: whahahahahahhaha
ok, looks like you're really suspicious....
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Jun. 11, 2010 – 10:33am
Me: Shouldn't I be? I don't know you and you don't know me. Would you get in a car with someone you barely know? I'm just trying to be careful. I think people should be suspicious of people they don't really know.
So would you like to talk and get to know each other more (at least exchange numbers or something) so we're less strangers to each other or do you just want to meet?
Jun. 11, 2010 – 3:56pm
Him: ok, let's talk then
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Sorry, A*****t no longer has an account.
He deleted his account which makes me more suspicious...or really thought I was crazy and doesn't want be messaging him again. I instantly get annoyed when people don't like that I'm private or cautious. So your opinions, am I crazy or not? How can I explain that I want to get to know someone (email, then phone) a little first before meeting in person without sounding crazy and/or paranoid? Is it even me, or are these guys just creeps on the brawl? <That makes me sound paranoid. Honestly, I know not all guy are going to rape me, but I want to be able to weed out the crazies. Help!!
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#354817 - 06/12/10 12:24 PM
Re: Online Dating
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StephieJ
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You did the right thing.. it is NOT safe to give out your address to someone over the internet. If you are going to meet someone ensure that you meet them in a VERY public place
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#354819 - 06/12/10 06:01 PM
Re: Online Dating
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TangledWeb
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Thank you. I was feeling a bit looney
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