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#355184 - 07/02/10 05:14 AM
Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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eFsaF
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Hey guys, here's a little backstory. I'm 19, my girlfriend's 17, we've been dating for a year and five months, and seven of those months have been long distance, since I've had to leave for college.
But we are doing very good, and have an extremely strong relationship. Well last week I visited her, and we had sex(not for the first time mind you, we used to have sex all the time, and I would ejaculate inside her almost every time, she IS on birth control.) Well we had sex a few times everyday, and one day we did have sex, she forgot to take her pill until 4-5 hours after when she normally took it, I hadn't ejaculated in her that day, or any of the previous times we had sex since months ago. But, the next day, I did, she continued to take her pill, etc etc.
Well it's been seven days since we've had sex (I've flown back home for a family cruise I got thrown in on,) and her period was supposed to come yesterday, well it hasn't yet, and she's starting to freak out, like stressing really, really hard. She thinks she's pregnant.
I've told her, you need to stop stressing or you're going to trick your body into thinking you ARE pregnant, and you will miss your period for even more days, even weeks, but she doesn't believe me, no matter what I say she continues to think she's pregnant. It even causes us to get into fights over it. I'm leaving on Saturday for a week-long cruise, and cannot contact her as much as we normally can, if at all. But the day after the cruise I am coming back to where she is, and we are spending a month together before school starts back up again. I plan on getting a pregnancy test or a few to ease her mind.
I know it's not 100% that she's not pregnant, but in reality I believe the chances of her actually being pregnant are pretty slim. She just doesn't understand that the more she stresses, the more stress she WILL cause to her. Is there any way I can calm her down before we can take the test and show her everything is alright?
If worse comes to worse, we have discussed abortions (she brought it up, willing to have one), and we do have enough money to do one, but at the very end of the last time we talked about them, she told me that if she was pregnant...she wouldn't want to get rid of it. I didn't know how to respond to that so any help on that would be greatly appreciated as well.
So basically for those tl:dr people - My girlfriend thinks she's pregnant, I'm pretty sure she's not, how do I calm her stress to make sure she's okay and doesn't further delay her period, AND if she is pregnant, she told me she wants to keep the child, we can't support that and I don't want that, what should I do?
Thanks very much guys, you've been helpful in the past on the many accounts I've had, and I'm sure you won't let me down this time either. Thanks once again.
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#355185 - 07/02/10 06:34 AM
Re: Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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readytogo
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Having unprotected sex is risky. For birth control pills to work, they must be taken regularly--every day, and preferably around the same time every day.
The only way to know whether she is pregnant or not is to have her take the test. If you're up now, why not go to the pharmacy and get one for her to use when she wakes up in the morning? That would be the best way to calm her fears, and yours while you're on the cruise.
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#355186 - 07/02/10 03:25 PM
Re: Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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eFsaF
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Well she just had her period today, and ready, I would do that but I can't because I'm back home, away from her, I can't see her for another week.
But she had her period and she's not stressing at all anymore so.
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#355190 - 07/03/10 06:48 AM
Re: Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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readytogo
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Glad everything turned out the way you wanted it to.
When I suggested you get her a pregnancy test I was confused, I guess, where you two are in relation to each other. I thought she was near your home, not near your college.
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#355192 - 07/03/10 12:54 PM
Re: Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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Do yourself a favor and use a condom. Just because she's on the pill doesn't mean she cant get pregnant..
DON'T BE STUPID!
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#355299 - 07/13/10 02:43 PM
Re: Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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eFsaF
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Yeah I'm starting to regret not using a condom, every since after she bled she's been having terrible stomach pains every day, she has constant headaches, has to go to the bathroom a lot and just today she woke up with swollen lips (on her face, :P.) I'm flying up tomorrow and we're spending the month together so we're going to take a pregnancy test, but do any of these sounds like bad symptoms? :|
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#355301 - 07/13/10 04:36 PM
Re: Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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sdp
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It just sounds like she sick...
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#355494 - 07/24/10 12:01 AM
Re: Girlfriend may be pregnant, how to calm her down?
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Unprotected sex even on birth control can be risky. Especially if you ejaculate inside of her. And also, I would not recommend abortion in the slightest. Sure, you might not care now, but it will come back to haunt you in future years. If she wants to keep it, see if her parents or your parents could help take care of the child. My girlfriend and I are going through a similar scare because she's a few days late. I believe stress and anxiety are pushing it even farther causing us to stress more. I would just keep telling her that everything will be okay and hope for the best.
After your girlfriend forgot to take her pill and you had sex, how long was it after your last ejaculation? If it was only a day or two, there is always a possibility that fertile precum could have come out. I would just stay positive and help her through it though. All the best.
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