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#356010 - 08/24/10 08:21 AM
Can't Climax...
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MetalHead419
Registered: 06/15/07
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Loc: BFE, Ohio
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Hey everyone, long time no see. How's everyone doing?
I'm really embarrassed by this, so I'm just gonna tear off the metaphorical band-aid... My girlfriend and I have been having sex pretty regularly, and she has at least 1 orgasm every time we do. I, on the other hand, have not been able to every time. In fact, I've probably only 'gotten there' 1 in every 3 or 4 times.
We usually go for a while, and she's always nice and 'lubricated', so that's not the issue. I genuinely don't mind it, but it is killing her self esteem and confidence 'in the bedroom.' She feels like I'm not turned on by her, that I don't enjoy making love to her, etc. etc. It feels amazing, and I always feel like I'm getting REALLY close, but then it sort of goes away, and I'm back to square one, like we just started, and I'm miles away. It's not frustrating for me, other than seeing her sad, almost hurt by it. I feel responsible for her sadness, and it's a terrible feeling.
It happened again this morning (it's 7am here), and this was the first time we've had sex in a few days, so it's not a problem of too frequent. I do go kind of soft while we're making love, but it usually comes back shortly after, when I slow down, start kissing her, nibbling her neck. The few times it doesn't come back, we just wait a little while, cuddle, then when it comes back, I can orgasm no problem, usually faster than I want to lol. I can't tell if it's stamina, or if it's something physiological, or if it's something psychological. Any insight would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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#356013 - 08/24/10 07:11 PM
Re: Can't Climax...
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Ineligible
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Being tired or stressed can do it.
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#356782 - 12/28/10 12:44 PM
Re: Can't Climax...
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texas1038
Registered: 12/28/10
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Loc: san antonio tx
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I have the same problem, except we've been together for about a month now and have sex alot. like or 4 times a day when she's in her mood, and I haven't came once inside.
I wish i had some advice but I'm as stumped as you. She seems so upset by it, and that's starting to get to me.
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#356784 - 12/28/10 05:43 PM
Re: Can't Climax...
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Roc
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Registered: 08/20/02
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Loc: Dallas,TX USA , Planet Earth
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Hey Tex...
Welcome to A2A. I'm not sure why this happens, but some of us guys have this problem...
Thanks again for sharing from your experiences and welcome!
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#357274 - 03/28/11 08:29 PM
Re: Can't Climax...
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Technodreamer
Registered: 03/28/11
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Is she romantic in bed?
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