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#5369 - 02/17/04 01:49 PM
For $1000, would you have your bf watch you.....?
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While I was looking for the Janet Jackson video on the internet, this silly porn ad came up. I'm sure it was staged. It's where these guys would come up to couples and tell the girl they'll pay her $1000 if she has sex with another guy while her boyfriend watches. Again, I think it was staged.
Here's my question: If your boyfriend asked for $500, but it would make him sad, would you do it for $1000. Could you enjoy the sex knowing he is there watching you?
-Perry
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#5370 - 02/17/04 03:18 PM
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Well noone said you have to enjoy the sex. If its for 1000 dollars and there are no strings attached then why not have ur partner watch u it could be erotic for the couple.
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#5371 - 02/17/04 03:24 PM
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If a guy walked up to me and my girl and asked if he could have sex with her I wouldn't say anything. Take my cell phone out of my pocket and hit a few digits. "yeah, this guy over here is promoting prostitution, I'd like a police officer over here right now, please."
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#5372 - 02/17/04 06:30 PM
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I wouldn't even consider having sex with someone else. Let alone have my boyfriend suffer by watching someone else have sex with his girlfriend right in front of him. I wouldn't be able to do it.
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#5373 - 02/17/04 06:40 PM
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websexinfo
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Ah, good. I like that.
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#5375 - 02/17/04 11:30 PM
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I once had a friend that I lost. She became a drug dealer and caught in the game. She's resorted to prostitution a few times. I know she's around somewhere, but I can't find her. I hear about her every once in a while. She's had 2 miscarriages in the past couple years. That's one girl I didn't have the strength to save. I didn't say the right things, couldn't sway the way she thought. Last time I talked to her we were in an argument. Maybe that's why I am the way I am.
Sorry, I kinda just zoned out there.
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#5377 - 02/18/04 03:56 PM
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Thanks. I lived with regret for two years. It took time, but I passed the emotions of guilt. It was her decision to take the route she was going and being her stubborn self she wouldn't let anyone change that, even her best friends. I still believe you can save people though. I'm stronger now then I was before.
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#5378 - 02/19/04 04:04 PM
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A few years ago I used to go to alternative lifestyle parties. Lots of husbands would approach me to have sex with their wives and they would look on. Actually, it was a big turn-on for both husband and wife. Most people in the lifestyle feel that it is better to have an open relationship that have their spouse cheat on them behind their back.
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#5379 - 02/19/04 04:31 PM
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Eh, a lot of relationships like that don't really last. I wouldn't consider that true love either. What a cop out.
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#5380 - 02/19/04 04:37 PM
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I agree with you websex. I could never do it but if that's another couple's bag, have at it. It's just not mine and it's not in the cards. And if my future husband ever suggest it, I'd try to discuss the reason why I would NOT do it very rationally. However, if that was something he kept pushing, I'd leave. I'm a firm believer that you can love someone but not be able to be with them for morals and beliefs that are stronger than you are. And I want a monogamous relationship.
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#5381 - 02/19/04 04:52 PM
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Guess there are people who can differentiate between love and sex. When I was in the lifestyle, I met couples who were together 20+ years and were in the lifestyle for just as long.
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#5382 - 02/19/04 04:56 PM
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Just because someone is in a relationship for a really long time doesn't mean anything to me. You have to note that this is only my opinion I guess.
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#5383 - 02/19/04 10:08 PM
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If you're saying that I don't know the difference between love and just sex you are wrong. I do. I believe sex was meant to be with someone you care about and love and who loves and cares about you just as much. I don't, however, understand how anyone could have sex with someone else while their partner watches. And I don't understand how the someone's partner can just sit there and watch because I couldn't and wouldn't watch my boyfriend have sex with anyone but me. It's hard enough to understand and believe that he had sex with other people before me. I'm certainly not about to sit and WATCH him have sex with someone else in front of me. If other people can do that, that's fine. I don't care. But I can't....and...I won't. I don't share. Ever seen the t-shirt that says, "does not play well with others?" Well, I don't share my boyfriend well with others and the only way I'm sharing is if I don't know about it. Some people can watch. I'm not one of those people. To me, personally, sex was created as higher way of expressing the love, affections, and passion that you have for your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife...when just words can't. I see people throw sex around like it's nothing anymore and I honestly believe that's wrong.
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#5384 - 02/19/04 10:14 PM
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Agreed. I don't like the idea of a guy saying:
"My dick needs attention from another person because I'm getting bored with just being with you."
or a girl saying something to that affect either dammit.
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#5385 - 02/19/04 11:40 PM
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LAW: A man may not seduce a woman by lying, and claiming he will marry her.
COUNTRY: USA / STATE: Mississippi
CITATION: 97-29-55 Seduction of female over age of eighteen by promised or pretended marriage.
ACTUAL: If any person shall obtain carnal knowledge of any woman, or female child, over the age of eighteen years, of previous chaste character, by virtue of any feigned or pretended marriage or any false or feigned promise of marriage, he shall, upon conviction, be imprisoned in the penitentiary not more than five years; but the testimony of the female seduced, alone, shall not be sufficient to warrant a conviction.
This relates, in a distant kind of way.
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#5386 - 02/20/04 12:15 PM
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Cenfath, it is great that you hold love and sex in such high regard and I understand and respect your beliefs. I, on the other hand, believe sex is something to be enjoyed by two or more consenting adults.
If my g/f wanted to bring a third person into our bed only for a sexual experience, I would not have a problem with it. If the three of us have no problem with it, it is no one's business what we choose to do. In both of our prior lives, we had threesomes and experimented in various sexual situations.
You concluded your post by saying; "I see people throw sex around like it's nothing anymore and I honestly believe that's wrong.". What is wrong with casual sex? If three adults consent to having sex whom should be the judge and say it is wrong? To abuse a child is wrong. To abuse a spouse is wrong. To lie, cheat and deceive someone is wrong.
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#5387 - 02/20/04 02:04 PM
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Everything is wrong with it. It doesn't hold anything of worth. It's just, "hey let's fuck", and that's not okay with me. Having the background that I have, and holding the morals, belief in God do, I don't believe sex was created for people to just screw around. What's the point? Sex is enjoyable with someone you love. But casual sex to me is just plain and unfulfilling.
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#5388 - 02/20/04 03:07 PM
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"My b/f is divorced, has two kids, and he and I have a pretty big age gap but you know something? It doesn't bother me and it doesn't bother him. So why it bothers other people I don't understand because they're not in the room sleeping with us. My own opinion is "get over it. It's not your life. I do what I want because I'm an adult."
The above is a copy & paste of your posting regarding an age difference in a relationship. Based on the above; if three people who wish to get together for consensual sex, and it does not bother neither of them, and you are not in the room, why does it bother you and make it so wrong? It's not your life. They do what they want because they are adults.
You mention morals and belief in God. Does your God approve of divorce? Does your God approve of pre-marital sex?
Although I do not prescribe to your beliefs, I do understand them. I do not judge it right or wrong, only that it is different to mine.
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#5389 - 02/20/04 03:13 PM
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FIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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#5390 - 02/20/04 04:45 PM
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I just scaned the posts and here is my view on alternative lifestyles and the love vs sex arguement. I do believe that a relationship can work even when a couple are swingers. Love and Sex are 2 different things. Sex can be used to show up most sign of love, but it doesn't have to necessarily. Sex can just be sex, and the same act can mean different things at different times and different people. Although I would not enjoy seeing my partner fucking some guy or girl, I can understand how it can work out. You really just have to be aware and fullfiled in life and confident in the love presented to you. If a guy is like you bore me in bed I need something more, now that is a different story. I think being a swinger should be for fun and excitement but not for fullfilment, because that definatly does mean something is wrong there. If the swinging were to stop and you only have your original partner and you were just as content I dont see a problem with the acts that were committed as long as both partner is okay with it. We all have different morals and values and I think we all need to respect that even if its something you think is discusting or immoral.
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#5391 - 02/20/04 08:17 PM
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To answer your questions:
1)Does God approve of divorce? No he does not. However, in the Bible it states that if a believer should marry a non-believer they (the believer) must not divorce them (the non-believer). However, if the non-believer should choose to leave then they may. And for the record, his wife filed for divorce, and no, she doesn't believe in God.
2) Does God approve of pre-marital sex? No he does not. Which is why I'm not having sex with my boyfriend. I've had sex once. The biggest mistake of my life. I thought I loved him and he had other plans. I vowed never to have sex again until I was married and here I am being true to my vow. It's not impossible to sleep in the same room, in the same bed with someone and not have sex. Thank you very much.
And also, if you would have bothered to read my previous posts you would have read that if other people want to do that, that's fine with them and I don't care. I just happen to think it's wrong to have sex with people you have no feelings for other than as a "sex toy". You're trying to bait me with this and you don't have a leg to stand on. I've made my reasons very clear why I don't like it and why I think it's wrong. I've also said previously as I'm saying now if you're a "grown-up" you're going to do what you want and I don't care what you do behind closed doors. But my opinion (of having casual sex with someone while your partner looks on) of it is that it's wrong.
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#5392 - 02/21/04 12:56 AM
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To add to my above statement, since I can no longer edit my post, I would like to say that using my situation with my boyfriend and the question you asked that just assumed I was having sex with him was found quite out of line.
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#5393 - 02/21/04 02:23 PM
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I totally agree with Cenfath on all the things she has said. Sex should show your love for you partner. IMO, "swinger" couples have a false sense of fulfillment and don't even know it.
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#5394 - 02/23/04 08:42 PM
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i agree with cenfath also, minus anything that has to do with religion. 
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