HOW
WE MASTURBATE
Techniques
for masturbation, like most aspects of sexuality, vary
greatly from person to person. Each of us has a unique set of images, thoughts,
odors, objects, and positions that arouse us. There is no right and wrong way to masturbate,
and no one should feel ashamed or strange because they
masturbate in a different way than their peers.
Men tend to masturbate by stimulating their penises with
their hand. Most
men move their hand in an up and down motion on the shaft
and glans of the penis, with variations on the tightness
of the grip and the speed of the motion.
The speed generally increases as orgasm approaches and slows/stops
during orgasm. 
Males
may also stimulate their penises by rubbing against objects,
or by thrusting their penis into various objects (e.g.,
wide-mouthed bottle, plastic sandwich bag, or even plastic vaginas
– with or without fake public hair.
A few males are able to perform auto-fellatio
on themselves (this is a popular topic on our masturbation
bulletin board).
Women
tend to masturbate by stroking, rubbing, or applying
pressure to clitoris, mons, or labia.
Typically, females apply generalized pressure
to the genital area while lying, sitting, or standing.
While many use fingers for stimulation, others
rub against pillows, towels, or other objects.
Some
women exert pressure on the clitoris by crossing their
legs and squeezing their thighs together or they run
flowing water over the genital area while in the bathtub
or shower. 
Some
women may use objects that can be inserted or rubbed
on their genitals (e.g., vibrator, dildo). Females often
achieve orgasm within two to five minutes of masturbation.
Many individuals, males and females alike, use lubricants
to enhance their masturbating experience.
These lubricants include saliva, soap, lotions,
oils, K-Y jelly, water, and cowper’s
gland fluid (“pre-cum”).
Water-based lubricants such as saliva and KY jelly
are the least irritating and chaffing to sensitive genital
skin.
