Premature
Ejaculation
Premature
ejaculation is
defined as consistently ejaculating before you want to.
Unfortunately, our societal emphasis on ejaculation as the
goal of intercourse exacerbates the "performance anxiety"
that often causes premature ejaculation in the first place.
Men may try a number of strategies to delay ejaculation
such as thinking of baseball scores or doing multiplication
tables. Some of these techniques can cause men to
be emotionally detached during intercourse. Some techniques
that are less distancing include:
Take
a more global, less penis-centric approach to pleasure.
Try
the "squeeze technique." Simply squeeze the head of the
penis by hand as ejaculation approaches, wait until the
response passes, and then continue.
Use
an extra strong (and thereby less thin, and sensitive)
condom.
Increase
the frequency of ejaculations.
Talk
to a therapist.
Consider
medications.
A
common side effect of one class of antidepressants is "sexual
dysfunction." These Selective
Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRI) medications such
as Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil, Celexa, and others, actually can
inhibit the ability to ejaculate. Because of this, they
have been used by some clinicians in the treatment of premature
ejaculation. Your doctor or therapist can give you more
information on this treatment.
For
more detailed information on this issue, check out the following
books:
How
to Overcome Premature Ejaculation (by Helen Singer Kaplan)
Impotence
Assist: The Causes, Treatments, and Prevention of Weak
Erections (Impotence) and Premature Ejaculation (by Dr N
Beck)
Additional
excellent books on this and other topics can be found in
the Resources section.
